Archive for September, 2010

Linux Penguin Sex

Lolz.  Here guys- this one I unearthed from Autostraddle’s Not-Safe-For-Work Sunday.

I bring you… Gay Sex Position by Linux Penguins.

Also, lesbian sex positions with barbies. Sex Positions

Enjoy, queer kids.


Once upon a time, there was a country named Thailand.

And in the 80’s, Thailand found out it had a problem…

In 1984, the first case of AIDS was reported in Thailand, and with the abundance of sex trafficking across the Thai border and a lack of information about the disease, the country was rife for an epidemic.

BUT INSTEAD, the Thais got creative.

Condoms became an advertising campaign.  You could get them with your coffee, at the grocery store, at school, from traveling health groups, and pretty much anywhere else you turned.  There were condom balloon-blowing competitions held as school fundraisers, a Harvard MBA turned superhero-icon spokesperson known as “Condom Boy,” and even t-shirts with condoms in the shape of the olympic logo with the slogan, “Weapons of Mass Protection.”

And from this, something really awesome happened.  Not only was a serious epidemic averted, but a new idea for sex education was born- one that didn’t shy away from touchy subjects or try to gloss over serious issues.  Which is why I think this exhibit at the National Science Museum of Thailand is freakin’ fantastic.

“Teenage boys gape at a coloured photograph of a vagina, while girls give embarrassed smiles as they watch a cartoon that showed penises ‘talking’ about masturbation. Young girls crowd around a display panel about love and relationships, as a boy embraces a female mannequin with all his might in order to measure the strength of his hug. “

By embracing the various conceptions of sex, rather than avoiding it or censoring specific kinds of sex (see Rubin’s “The Charmed Circle” ), kids can better understand sexuality and make healthier decisions about their own practices.

And it hasn’t stopped with just this exhibit.  Thai sex ed in general is getting more and more progressive.  Anothergreat article about engaging students in honest dialogue about sex is available here:

So my question is, why is it so impossible to get this kind of forthright and legitimate education here in the supposedly more developed and socially responsible United States?

This really is the beginning of a bad joke. For those of us privileged enough to have been born with a body that matches our internal gender identity, it’s hard to comprehend the difficulties that many trans and transitioning people must go through in order to align their physical and mental genders.  For those who choose to transition, there are hormones, surgeries, and legal battles to fight, visits to psychologists and extensive, rigorous hurdles to simply being given the medical o-k to have any sex-reassignment operations.

For those who choose not to transition (0r not to do so fully with the actual reassignment surgery), there are intense more intense legal issues, social misunderstanding, and terrible discrimination in the healthcare system.  Because of the deep-seated prejudice and lack of understanding that most Americans have for the needs and complications associated with translife, many doctors simply have no idea how to care for transpeople.  Not only do they lack a personal familiarity with the issue of transgenderism, but their training in medical school was largely centered around a binary understanding of gender and before many of the latest medical breakthroughs in sex-reassignment were made.  On top of that, many people are simply repulsed by anything non-normative and deny transpeople care because of their prejudice.  A really good article about that here.

As the article explains, there are two types of transgender specialties in the medical field: transitioning health care(hormones, surgeries, counceling, etc. aimed at helping a person change their bi0logical sex) and care of non-normative bodies (people with either ambigious genetalia/ intersex persons, people who are using hormones but don’t intend to fully transition, and so on).

On of the greatest misconceptions about transpeople is the understanding that you cannot be trans unless you have or intend to undergo sexual reassignment surgery.  As I have said before, this is clearly not true.  There are many people out there who identify as trans who are very comfortable simply cross-dressing, or only undergoing chest surgery, without the genetalia to match.  And there’s nothing wrong with that.

This article, “The Operative Word” does a good job unpacking some of the assumptions about transpeople and surgery.  I highly suggest you read it.

And to wrap up, this is a lovely interview with a transman from Boston, where he explores the way perspective and emotions change as one transitions from female to male.

Stay queer, cool kids.


Just a little dose of blasphemy to lighten up your weekend.

Stay cool, queer kids.

Did you ever “play doctor” when you were a kid?  Ever get caught?

I love this exchange between a mother and her doctor published by Carnal Nation about young kids’ sexuality.

The door was closed.
Did you knock?
No. She’s never closed her door before.
Oh. I guess the closed door meant something to her.
They jumped when I walked in.
Well, you interrupted them.
They looked guilty.
Since your attitude was that you “caught” them, I guess they felt “caught.

The full exchange is here:

The brilliant thing about this conversation is the way it puts kids behavior into a conscious context.  5 year olds know things.  They learn and understand the world based on millions of sources of input, including TV, advertising, conversation they overhear from parents (and their parents’ friends!), and through playmates.  Children do not remain blank slates forever, and parents do not selectively insert ideas and practices into their absorbent brains as they so choose.

So it’s perfectly normal that children play doctor, that they are curious about social rules that have been instilled in them without any explanation.  “No, don’t touch Jimmy there.”  Well, why not? “Because he’s a boy, and we don’t touch little boys there.”

Face it, parents are really bad at giving explanation for these seemingly senseless social rules that they inflict on their children, so their kids are bound to utilize their own means for understanding them.  Well, if doctors can look and touch little boys there, maybe I just have to be a doctor and I’ll figure out what’s so weird about that. The game is a research method- a tool for understanding biological and social ideas that are very difficult and awkward to spell out to a small child.

Playing doctor might be sexual…and it might not be.  The curiosity of young children knows no bounds, and maybe discoveries from playing doctor lead to other “socially unsavory” games like playing “married,” yet once again, this isn’t always a bad thing.  If children are able to explore their own bodies and sexualities when they are young and in a safe place, without the shame of embarrassment or the need to hide their practices, they’ll grow into healthier functioning adults.

And that’s a pretty good prescription for a 5 yr. old, isn’t it?

Gen Silent

How often do you think about the sacrifices your grandparents generation made for you?  About their courage and commitment to WWII?  To the civil rights movement of the 1950’s and 60’s?  To the very first White House protests for gay rights by the Mattachine Society?

Probably not very much.  Frankly, we take a lot of the historical contributions of our past generations for granted, however much holidays like Veterans Day try to remind us to be thankful.  So that makes it all the more disturbing that more and more senior citizens, especially in nursing homes and assisted-care facilities, are being forced back into the closet after a lifetime of bravery and service to our country and ideals.

It probably comes as no surprise that your grandparents’ generation wasn’t the most open and progressive regarding LGBT people.  The anger, hate, and outright discrimination that they faced makes it all the more honorable for those who were brave enough to come out in the 30’s, 40’s, and 50s’.   Now, the same generation of people that oppressed them when they were younger is hurting them again.  In addition, the health care system is stilling denying rights to these individuals- to see, live with, and care for their partners, to get health care benefits and end-of-life care, and a million other essential rights for someone seeing the twilight of their life.

A short video promo here will give you a better idea of the problem:

I find it eternally shameful.

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