Geeze guys, why didn’t someone remind me? It’s National Coming Out Day!
While this event is usually a celebration of open acknowledgement of sexuality and sexual orientation, I’d like to broaden the scope a bit and let you all think about the different ways one can come out. The idea of coming out actually reminds me a little bit of (I know this will sound cheesy, but…)m High School Musical. I know, I know, bear with me here. So you remember the scene in the cafeteria where the one basketball kid tells his friends how he likes to bake, and then a nerd tells her friends that she loves doing hip-hop and suddenly everyone breaks out into that song “Stick to the Status Quo?”
Well, that’s how it goes with a lot of things. We are children of societal expectation, and there are a lot of non-normative things that require “coming out.” That can be anything from loving to knit to being gay or trans, to loving BDSM and kink. There are a million practices and identities that society points fingers at, claiming that they are wrong or at the very least, not normal.
Which is why I love this article by Asher Bauer and this video by Brown U. alum Marty about coming out (which, of course, encompasses coming out to yourself) as kinky
Marty, the courageous soul, came out on his Law School Applications as polyamorous, queer, and kinky, sparking an interesting conversation with his dad and society in general about which spaces allow us to be open about who we really are.
I hope you take a look and comment on both, but in honor of Coming Out Day, I’d really like to hear from you all about your coming out stories (or if you are an ally, about a friend who has come out to you). Please share the love!